It is May 9, 2010 - Mother's Day.
Moms are incredible people. They are expected to do everything important in raising a family and never seem to be appreciated. In fact, mothers are more often criticized for not doing everything perfectly then they are praised for the things they do. With a big family and a crazy schedule, I certainly understand and appreciate the work that mothers do. In many ways, it is too bad that only one day a year is set aside to celebrate the work and influence of the mothers in our lives.
I have some incredible moms in my life - but let me tell you a little bit about my mother Sherry Helms. When I was growing up, I did not realize how great my mom was. She would read to me when I was young, she spent time playing games and always had food on the table for the family. These were (and still are) activities that moms are expected to do - but I now fully appreciate how hard it can be to do what is "expected." This means my mother (like most others) sacrificially took time away from herself to care for me, my brother and my father. I also now understand that what my Mom did was not normal but extraordinary. The fact is there are mother out there that are lazy, selfish or are simply not strong enough to dedicate the time and energy it takes to be a good mother. So for those that do make this sacrifice - thank you!
Growing up, my brother and I knew we were the most important thing to our mom. I can remember having a conversation with her when I was very young (maybe 5 or 6) asking her how much someone would have to pay her to give me up. I asked if $100 would do it? She said no. I said $1000? Again she said no. After several more guesses she finally said no amount of money would be enough because she loved me more than all the money in the world.
My mom was not only loving but she was also appropriately tough. She would discipline when we needed discipline. She gave me space to make mistakes but never too much leash to get into real trouble. She tried to influence my choice of friend, steering me toward the right crowd and keeping me in church. She knew how important these things were. Even though I did not always listen to her, I eventually gravitated toward friends and adult influences who were good people. Therefore, while I certainly made mistakes, I had a good support group helping me set goals and make right decisions.
Another thing about my mom - she is very smart. Despite not having a formal eduction past high school she knows a lot about a lot. I am not taking about just common sense or street smarts, my mom is a really smart person. Even as a kid I knew she had a skill for judging character, but as I got older I really appreciated her intellect. She even tries to hide it at times - which is kind of funny.
I know that I would not be the person I am today if it was not for my mom. She never pushed me too hard academically, but was always proud when I would achieve success. In addition, she and Dad were always my biggest fans. Telling me (and others) I could achieve anything I put my mind to. This gave me the confidence I needed to set my goals high.
So on this Mothers Day 2010 - I say "Thank You" Mom for all that you have done for me and my family!
My Mom with our youngest Josh
